Between all of the prewedding parties and the wedding itself, it's easy for guests to experience present panic. At a loss for what to get, and when to get it? Fear not -- we've compiled a list of the best gift tips, created with the giver in mind.
Wedding gifts should be sent to the address specified on the couple's registry. Don't bring yours to the reception. While still the custom in some regions, gifts brought to the wedding mean the newlyweds have to worry about security -- and getting everything home. (Not to mention you have to lug it around that day.)
Unless you know the couple well and that they'll be ecstatic over that one-of-a-kind gift, stick to their registry. You'll be buying them something they want, so you know they'll love it. Hate the idea of giving flatware? Choose something you like from another category on their list.
Not sure where a couple is registered? Call the bride's or groom's parents, or someone in the bridal party -- it's even okay to ask the couple. Registry information may also be printed on the shower invitations.
When a couple indicates No Gifts Please, it probably means they're not okay with the idea of obligatory gifts. But feel free to give one anyway -- they won't be offended! Or you might want to make a donation in the couple's name to a charity that's important to them (or you) instead.
Want to get them something spectacular but you're (ahem) financially challenged? Ask a mutual friend if he or she would be interested in going in together on a present. Then every time the newlyweds use your fab gift -- a set of luggage, top-of-the-line cutlery -- they'll think of you.
Did you know that guests have up to one year after the wedding to send a wedding gift? So don't worry -- the couple will not get anxious or upset if you haven't sent them a present in time for the wedding day.
Giving a monetary gift? Before the wedding, make the check out to the bride *or* groom, depending on whom you're closer to (if it's the bride, use her maiden name!). On the wedding day or after, make the check payable to *both* bride and groom (use their married name, unless the bride is keeping her last name).
If a couple hasn't registered in time for the engagement party, a safe bet is to give something for their home. Examples include candlesticks, a vase, or picture frames. Save household appliances for the shower. Also keep in mind: Engagement party gifts are completely optional -- no need to break the bank.
Unsure about how much to spend? These days, brides and grooms register for gifts in a wide range of prices, so you're bound to find something that suits your budget. Give what you can afford -- any gift is a nice gesture, and the couple will understand if you can't spend a bundle.
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